This is a blog post I've kind of been dreading. No, not because I regret my decision - because of the friends I might lose, the bad comments I might receive, or the loss of respect. I am prepared to be looked down upon for it, or possibly lose some friends over it, but its a decision Jeffry and I came to together, after discussing it often.
We decided to have a prim baby. Yeah, I know. But no - not just the prim baby, we decided to go the whole pregnancy thing and all. (But don't worry, I will never wear a talking belly in public, or around anyone else. :P) I used to hate going shopping, and seeing pregnant avatars, or hearing prim stomachs tell the world that the mother-to-be needed vitamins, or anything. It was extremely annoying, and I really didn't want to be spammed by it all while I shopped for shoes. And, I never understood why someone would want to do that, in a perfect world, where you never had to worry about getting pregnant.
However, I knew Jeffry wanted a SL marriage, and he brought the idea of a prim baby up occasionally. I skirted around the idea, because prim babies kinda scared the crap out of me (although, admitting, I had considered buying a prim baby a couple months ago for some kind of amusing pet). But, as I got to know Jeffry, my thoughts changed. I started to warm up to the idea of having a prim baby. I mean, after all - nurserys in SL are sooooooo cute, and I wanted to decorate one. And, the mix of my curiosity and being interested in how SL pregnancies worked - eventually... as I'm getting closer to booking a plane flight to meet him in RL, I agreed to have a baby with Jeffry.
I debated - should I keep it from my friends? Just hide in my house for 6 weeks? Should I come out and risk being the oddball pregnant girl who is the butt of all jokes? Should I risk losing my friends by telling them about it? I thought for several days. And, decided I will not hide, and this is how I want to spend my SL. I mean, I'm not just here to please other people, right? So, this is my blog post - saying my decision to have a baby with my partner, Jeffry.
I plan on writing about having a baby, showing pregnant pictures, writing about how crappy it is modding clothes for maternity is, making and blogging pregnancy poses I make, and even writing about lamaze and stuff. Yes, we signed up at a clinic to do the whole prenatal care, lamaze, and delivery things :P
So, if you see mah belleh growing - this is why. On August 17th, 2009, we will have a baby girl named Jasmine Arlene. :D
July 14, 2009 at 12:24 AM
After 2 years in SL I still get the ocassional "people are crazy in SL" thought, but ... I think I can also say I have learned to respect people's choices. Everyone has their own dreams, wishes & needs. Who am I (or others) to judge? Of course when it comes to deceiving others, illegal stuff, sick stuff with minors, etc.,. - that's never OK. As you wrote, it's YOUR decision to get a primbaby, so if you're feeling comfortable with it - enjoy it ;)
Hahaha I'm actually looking forward to your posts about your pregnancy. I haven't read any SL blogposts about that topic yet and I know I won't get any firsthand experience with SL pregnancies *gulp*
Oh - pretty exciting you plan on meeting Jeffrey in RL :D that's really cool!
July 14, 2009 at 1:11 AM
You guys are meeting? *squeeee*
Ok, I can't promise that I won't occasionally tease you about being SL preggers, or about having a prim baby, and if your tummy ever starts talking around me I can't promise I won't throw a chicken at your head or something. But I *can* promise you that I won't stop being your friend over it. <3
Just keep Jeffrey away from Kal. Don't want him getting any ideas... >.>
*snuggles*
July 14, 2009 at 9:18 AM
I think that is sweet! Who knows you may be starting the new craze in SL. :-P Good luck with things! I am looking forward to reading your posts about the experience.
July 17, 2009 at 4:07 AM
Honestly? SL pregnancies creep the hell out of me, but to each its own. If you want it, do it. No one has anything to tell how to live your life, Second or First :D.
July 31, 2009 at 2:11 PM
Hello Sai
My name is Sarah Stewart and I am a 'real' life midwife and midwifery educator in New Zealand. I am working in an education project, developing a virtual birthing centre for student midwives to use to role-play their communication and decision-making skills. My SL name is Petal Stransky.
It's only since starting this development work that I have realised that people role-play pregnancy & birth, so I wish you lots of luck with this (hope the baby doesn't grow into a terrible teenager! LOL).
In 'real life' student midwives 'follow through' a woman during her pregnancy & birth ie she becomes a friend and extra support person & learns about pregnancy from the woman's point of view.
My questions is: how willing or keen do you think pregnant women in SL would be to have a student midwife 'follow' through' their SL pregnancy as another way for students to learn about communicating with women etc?
Would love to hear from you & have a chat about this in more depth.
August 11, 2009 at 4:17 PM
Not a fan of prim babies whatsoever. I wonder if you would commit to not doing what others do when they are "pregnant," as spelled out here: http://beerswithmikaliskaras.blogspot.com/2009/06/dumbass-rises.html
When you get bored do send it to me, I'll take good care of it. I found your blog while doing research for my piece. Cheers.
September 8, 2009 at 8:20 AM
So, my husband and I want to have a baby too, but like you said there is nothing out there to tell you what exactly to buy. What did your husband decide on as far as the HUD, etc.?
May 27, 2011 at 6:06 PM
I know this was posted awhile.. but I am currently SL pregnant right now... and I felt the same way... ugh reallyyy??? PRIM BABIES?? gah camman people!! but I am currently in love with someone in SL... plan to hopefully meet this summer... and we have had conversations about eachother that when you think about it it was the best gift we could give to one another... I dont regret it.. and I never will... it has made us both happy and excited... Sometimes precious life in RL is not always guaranteed... this is a perfect way to have the best experience to give eachother everything you could want <3
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